How I healed after a break up🕯️˚ ༘♡ ⋆

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Dec 06, 2024

:HEARTBREAK enters the scene: *pulls dagger out of chest*

Ugh. It’s tender, it’s messy, it’s oh-so-ugly. But it’s gonna be ok, I promise.

This isn’t a one size fits all healing list. It can and will look different for everyone but I wanted to share what my healing looked like during the last big boy break up because if it resonates, you can keep the list (or share it!).

Either way, I hope it illuminates something in you.

Friends gif. Jennifer Aniston as Rachel hugs Lisa Kudrow as Phoebe while holding a tissue and fighting back tears.

Things I did after a break up to heal:

I let myself feel the feelings and cry a whole fucking lot (without judgement.. cos it was a lot)
I met with a somatic therapist/coach once a week (game changer)
I went cold turkey sober (no alcohol, no wine, no weed)
I allowed myself a lot of guilt-free nothing and rest (Being????)
I sat in the sun, swam in the ocean and ate sandy mangos on the beach
I journaled daily to process thoughts and feelings
I alchemized said feelings into art when I felt like it *cue in sad girl songs and chicken scratch doodles*
I stood under hot water in the shower for more than an hour (Sorry, California — but I was in Miami)
I danced in my living room like a looney tune
I got a library card and took free sewing classes
I read a lot
I met my grief with intention, spaciousness, and curiosity — I asked questions like, “what is this feeling here to teach me?”
I exercised 4-5x a week, mostly took my anger out on heavy weights
I engaged in simple pleasures that brought me joy like riding bike or watching the sun rise
I cooked and ate a lot of nourishing foods that grounded my belly *flirtingly winks at japanese sweet potatoes* + occasionally stuffed down a bag of my favorite tortilla chips bc so soothing damn it
I organized a support system with friends who frequently checked in on me. I asked them to call me if they didn’t hear from me after too many days in a row. (cos one thing about meeeee? if i am silencio then something is uppity!)
I did not date. I did not fuck. I focused on me until I felt ready to date again (reminder: this can look different for everyone, some of you might want to date while healing — this is just what my healing required of me).
Focused on braiding a healthy Body, Mind and Spirit. Corny, but true ¯\_(ツ)_/¯